Grow Through It

We’ve all been there – having an experience we would prefer not to. Whether it’s a simple task like folding laundry or an everyday aspect of our lives like our 9 to 5, the chances are that at some point we’ve encountered responsibilities we’d rather not fulfill. But some commitments aren’t easily ended, and when that is the case, we may find ourselves feeling frustrated. Facing this discomfort presents us with the unique opportunity to grow through it.

In life, we have choices, each bringing us closer to or taking us further away from the life we were created to live. Our everyday activities may not seem like life-altering undertakings, but what we do every day does determine our life’s path. If we’re working toward our goals daily, there’s a good chance we will accomplish them ultimately. In the same way, if we aren’t applying ourselves each day, we likely won’t progress toward achieving our dreams.

So what do we do when we are completely unmotivated to complete tasks and have zero desire to execute them? We keep growing. Read on for more on why.

Because We’re Emotionally Mature

It’s been said that emotional maturity is a greater predictor of success than intelligence because it requires a unique skill set that cannot be achieved with intellect alone. As our emotional wisdom develops, we are more likely to seek the lesson in all opportunities – even those that do not appeal to us. And we’re better able to accomplish our goals. We’re more resilient, optimistic, and flexible – vital attributes for leadership and growth. When we shift our thought process from “why do I have to do this?” to “what can I learn from this opportunity?” we’re increasing our emotional IQ, something our future selves will undoubtedly thank us for. Read more about emotional intelligence here.

Because Discomfort is Temporary

Because nothing lasts forever, even the worst experiences must eventually end. Remembering this principle can make it so much easier to navigate discontentment. Have you noticed that your mood improves the closer you get to finishing an annoying task? If quitting time is 5 pm, we perk up at 4:30. If we’re writing an essay, we power through the last paragraph. It’s because our mind is anticipating the closing. We can see the light at the end of the tunnel. But whether we can see the light or not, it is always there. When we encounter difficulty, it may help to affirm to ourselves: This too shall pass.

Because We’re Being Planted

Have you heard the parable of the Chinese Bamboo Tree? It’s an amazing tale of patience, faith, and persistence. When the seed is planted, it requires water, fertile soil, and sunshine; however, the tree grows underground for the first four years. Year one? No visible growth. Two? Still, nothing meets the eye. The third and fourth years are more of the same until seemingly overnight, an 80-foot tree springs up. What takes five years to cultivate underground sprouts fiercely for all to see in just six weeks. The same can be true for us if we are as diligent with nurturing growth within ourselves. We may feel that no progress is being made, but what’s planted within us will bloom fully in due time.

Because We Never Know Who’s Watching

If you’ve ever seen the primetime series Undercover Boss, you know just how rewarding (or unrewarding) your work ethic can be. The series features Founders and CEOs as they join the ranks of their company’s frontline workers. Often, the standout employee who is making the best of their circumstance is who catches the eye and heart of the boss. Promotions and paid time off pale in comparison to some of the gifts employees have received on the show. In 2013, Stephen Cloobeck, founder and chairman of Diamond Resorts, contributed $2 million to his employees and paid for a staff member’s chemotherapy treatment. So whether you’re at your dream job or in between jobs, work like the CEO is watching. Because they just might be.

Because We Know How the Story Ends

Many times, frustration and annoyance are secondary emotions rooted in deeper feelings, such as fear. Fearing the unknown and stressing over uncertainties can cause us to feel discouraged, hopeless, and unfulfilled. If we aren’t sure if we’ll ever be promoted, find love, or be happy, we may begin to believe that nothing we do is worthwhile. The good news is that we control that narrative. We can either believe that the best things are in store for us or continue to behave as if the worst will always find us. It’s entirely up to us, but when we start speaking and believing positively, our actions will align to help create the best outcome. We don’t have to fear the worst or succumb to frustration. We know that everything will work out for us in the end, so we can keep going and growing through it!